The first thing that comes to my mind in dealing with uncomfortable situations is a flee response, or to just sit and watch. As a parent I tried that at first, but have found that in some cases it is my responsibility to stand up for a child or to a child, even if it causes tension or uncomfortableness. Over time I have found ways to ease the conflict and make it a more loving situation (not that I always remember to do this). I still surprise myself how well some of the techniques work. When I forget to use them and just react I reflect later on my lack of wisdom (why can’t I consistently remember this!).
Give it time
Don’t make quick decisions if I feel uncomfortable. IT IS OK TO SAY I WILL CALL YOU BACK AND LET YOU KNOW. This gives me time to really decide what is right for our family and will make everything flow best.
Seek the Spirit
…settled feeling, good vibes, whatever you want to say to describe feeling good about the situation. Mothers/Fathers know what is right for their families and are entitled to judge situations with the Spirit, etc.
When you respond to the situation realize it is your job to be a parent before making the rest of the world happy. That said, having a loving, unified feeling with the other person is optimal. There are ways to put effort into showing them you love them and that it’s not them, but you as a parent doing what you need to. It can be hard to be bold, but worth it for your kids. I think people can tell if you know what you are doing is right and that you still love them. Be genuine and show forth support and love.