You have six young children. You are going through a Master’s program. You are the Young Men’s president at church. You are volunteering your time for a concert production non-profit. And now you were just laid off from your job (the third time you have been through layoffs).
You had three job offers immediately. The first and best offer was retracted because they started going through layoffs. The second found out you had six children and retracted the offer (they felt you wouldn’t be able to handle the travel). The third is a small step up in pay, but a step back in your career. After turning them down you went back and asked for the position back. You start tomorrow.
I remember that pit in your stomach. This is not what you wanted to do. Your dream job was ripped away from you. The six children, school, and serving in the Church and non-profit is a lot in and of itself. Mess with your job and that is the icing on the cake.
Why does this keep happening to you? Where are you going? Are you less of a man when you can’t keep a job? Will you just take any old job you can get? After 3.5 layoffs and barely making enough to support this little family and now you add a sub-par job which is leading to a sub-par career which leads you to visions of failure?
Yes. I get it. It is tough. Really tough. Could it be worse? Absolutely. Add major health issues on to that and then you could complain.
Please do not let your worry interfere with your family. Continue to love them. Play with them while they are small. Take time out to read to them, sing to them, create with them. They are the most important.
The career will happen. Don’t worry about that. And when it happens you will need to buckle up because you are about to go on the ride of your life.
But the best ride of your life will be your family and you are already living it.
It is your wife. Your children. Nothing will be better than them.
Sure. You have NO IDEA what is lying ahead. And that is why you feel the way you do – you have no idea.
Honestly, you never will. Get used to it and love where you are.
Besides, you need to be the example to your family of how to handle difficult situations.
Love the moment. No matter how difficult things are, it is temporary. It WILL be better. That I can promise.
Even when you fail your final Master’s oral presentation.
Even when you completely run out of money because of a risk you take.
Even when you bomb that speech in front of 100 people.
Even when all the work dries up and there seems to be nothing in sight.
Even when you create that startup and it fails.
Remember: Your family is always in sight. In front of you. They are the only thing that really matters. You work hard enough and are smart enough that the rest will work out. Don’t let that affect the love you show toward your family.
Love them. Create memorable experiences with them. Joke with them more.
And don’t worry. The rest will all work out.
– You in 10 years