When I’m sitting in class and one of my friends (let’s call her Beth) leans over and starts complaining about one of the other people in the class (“Anna”), Beth is also whispering so the teacher can’t hear her. I fell badly because Anna is struggling and she is trying and just doesn’t know. I understand what Beth is talking about but I still think that first that we shouldn’t be having side comments when the teacher is speaking. Secondly, we shouldn’t be gossiping about people.
I feel badly because I should ask Beth to stop, but I don’t want to be the girl that always asks everyone to be kind constantly. And I would be a hypocrite to my own thoughts, not talking over the teacher.
So what do I do?
I have found that when people make comments like that in a class I ignore them and or just say, “Uh hum,” that way I don’t encourage them, but don’t agree with them. Then next time I hear Beth taking about Anna, I just kindly ask then to stop. If they don’t stop I just walk away and won’t be apart of the conversation.
I think it is OK to talk about Anna and what is hard, but to always end on a good note. I shouldn’t be criticizing and ripping on them. Rather I should only talk about it if it has a good attitude with it.
Whenever I have thoughts about a person and how they are unkind and want to say it aloud, I just have to think how I would feel if someone else was talking about me. I want to be an example so when I leave home I want to be looked back as someone that never gossiped and someone that stood up for people.